“Using the Love and Respect Connection proves that “a man of knowledge increases power” Prov.“When counseling couples, I often ask “what causes fights and quarrels among you?”” James 4:1 p.“The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” Ecc.“As God revealed the Love and Respect message, I experienced Psalm 119:130: “The unfolding of your words gives light it gives understanding” p.This book is rooted in Scripture, and so you cannot disagree with it.īelow are some examples of verses that are used superfluously (note how in each case, the verse does not add anything, and in many cases, only a few words of the verse are quoted anyway): Now, this isn’t necessary a problem (though you will see below why it becomes very problematic).īut what is the message being given by putting Bible verses literally everywhere? Bible verses are sprinkled throughout the book, both in the margins and in the text. On most two-page spreads there is at least one Bible verse in a call-out box. In Love & Respect, the “medium” by which the message is delivered is to quote Bible verses everywhere. Marshall McLuhan, a famous Canadian socioologist from the 1950s and 1960s, famously said “the medium is the message,” by which he meant that the way something is conveyed often changes the meaning of it (for instance, TV news has way fewer words than a newspaper account, and so TV tends to make things more sensationalized because there’s not as much room for nuance). To go over all 208 references would be too onerous, and I want to make this as accessible as possible. These notes are not exhaustive I tried to find several examples of each of the problems so that we could talk about it (and some of these things we didn’t mention yesterday because of time constraints).

Today I want to share my notes for that podcast, so that others can see the issues. Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast, Nijay Gupta, Joanna Sawatsky and I looked at how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture. This year, as we return to look at Love & Respect once again, we decided to do a deep-dive into Emerson Eggerichs treatment of Scripture. However, that is not the only problem with the book. (download our one-sheet with the synopsis of issues).įor several years, we have been endeavouring to warn people about the problems with how Eggerichs approaches sex.

Our study of 20,000 women, done for our book The Great Sex Rescue, identified Love & Respect as the most harmful best-selling evangelical marriage book, scoring just 0/48 on our rubric of healthy sexuality. This does not mean, however, that the book is rooted in the Bible or that it handles the Bible correctly. And, indeed, Emerson Eggerichs has 230 Scripture references in his book. So many people defend the book Love & Respect, saying that it is biblical and rooted in Scripture. Emerson Eggerichs does not handle Scripture appropriately in Love & Respect.

Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs